CONSULTATION: ADJUSTING TO CHANGE.
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Welcome back to Bwiza bwa Mashira! This weeks post is under the theme of consultation. After a few topic recommendations for this theme, a particular one seemed captivating. This topic being "adjusting to change". After carrying out some research and self reflection I came up with a few pointers and advice in relation to adjusting to change. I Hope you enjoy this post and feel free to Share, comment and Recommend any topics for the next post under the theme of consultation! thank you for the support thus far, truly grateful.
Change can be either the most amazing or most awful thing that can occur in ones life. It can mould you into a better person or bring out the worst in you. Change comes in various ways, for instance, adolescence, loss, lifestyle, environment etc. With the pointers and advice I've tried to compile, they will hopefully apply in any circumstance:
1. Understand yourself:
One of the hardest things to do as an individual is to truly learn your purpose, getting to understand who you really are outside of society, family or work. This is the first step to adjusting to change. Give yourself time. Understanding ones self enables them to do the most. When Change happens, most people tend to lose themselves during the process or may not even have known who they truly were before the change. My advice to you is to take some time off to yourself...avoid social media and social events, figure out what you like, your preferences, what you don't like and observe your behaviour. Learn to appreciate your company and love yourself, this won't make you a loner but furthermore empower you. It will help keep a strong ground and know which direction you could be going to (I also strongly suggest meditation to find peace of mind).
2. Hype yourself/ Be optimistic:
This point is pretty self explanatory but yes, hype yourself for change! Change could be the most depressing thing if you don't do this. Personally, this happened to me when I changed locations.
It was my first time away fr
om home and I wasn't optimistic about any of it. I was very negative towards everything and of course I missed home. But after some time I began to see the good in some of it, I began to appreciate parts of it.. the people, events and exposure for talent. So yes, research about your particular change, look for interesting places and dare! Basically, do anything in your power to stay positive. it is really about YOU. what you make of it has a huge impact on how it goes.
om home and I wasn't optimistic about any of it. I was very negative towards everything and of course I missed home. But after some time I began to see the good in some of it, I began to appreciate parts of it.. the people, events and exposure for talent. So yes, research about your particular change, look for interesting places and dare! Basically, do anything in your power to stay positive. it is really about YOU. what you make of it has a huge impact on how it goes.
It could be hard to consistently be positive but just keep reminding yourself of the good and you will quickly learn to adjust to the change in your life.
3. Accept failure and move on:
There is always a mixture of feelings and emotions going on in you so don't be shaken by this, instead grow and learn from it. It is not the end of the world even though it will feel like it.
Don't allow it to cloud your mind and refuse you to move forward. You are allowed to feel bad but don't drown yourself in sorrow. keep pushing, accept that you have failed and go back to the drawing board. Figure out where you went wrong. If it makes you feel any better, no one has it is easy.
nta muntu byorohera
So get back on track as soon as you can. Stay grateful for another day to carry on. The power that is within you once you overcome failure equips you for greater things, it is not the beginning of a series of failure but beginning of your growth.
So get back on track as soon as you can. Stay grateful for another day to carry on. The power that is within you once you overcome failure equips you for greater things, it is not the beginning of a series of failure but beginning of your growth.
4. Build strong connections and friendships:
It is very important for you not to go through change with no one to help you. I urge you to find someone trustworthy, even though it might take a while.
Everyone is always in need of a helping hand, so don't hesitate to make friends and build connections to help you out through your change. The best option is to get someone who has more years of experience so that you can learn from them. As a person who was more on the introvert side at first, I can testify that adjusting to change, especially the fact that I was changing environment and location, I had to learn to socialize and get out of my box. Doesn't mean you have to go overboard and be uncomfortable, even a friend or two could do. Because trust me, it becomes rather depressing. Building connections also means building relevant ones, friendships you can rely on and ones that assist you to get through hardships.
You could try and adjust to change on your own but it would honestly be a lot easier with a friend to help you out and to lean on in time of need.
So don't be afraid of change but welcome it, you need it...
Otis Redding- A change is gonna come.
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Sincerely,
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